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  • Raising Chickens for Beginners: Everything You Need to Know

    Raising Chickens for Beginners: Everything You Need to Know

    Raising chickens is one of the most rewarding steps toward self-sufficiency and sustainable living. You may have heard that they are the gate-way animal to homesteading. 😂 Not only do they provide fresh eggs and meat, but they also make delightful companions and help control pests in your yard. If you’re new to chicken keeping, don’t worry—it’s easier than you think! Here’s everything you need to know to get started. 

    Why Raise Chickens?

    First off, why should you raise chickens? Chickens are incredibly versatile animals, making them a perfect addition to any homestead, backyard or beginner. Here are some benefits:  

    Fresh Eggs: Home-raised eggs are tastier and more nutritious than store-bought.  

    Natural Pest Control: Chickens love eating insects like ticks, beetles, and flies.  

    Composting Helpers: Their droppings are a rich source of nitrogen for compost.  

    Low-Maintenance Pets: Chickens are easy to care for and can provide endless entertainment.  

    Choosing the Right Breeds 

    Selecting the right breed depends on your goals. Some chickens are better for egg production, while others are ideal for meat or dual-purpose. I always recommend doing your own research to find whats right for your life and your homestead but here are a few popular options:  

    Egg-Layers: Leghorns, Rhode Island Reds, and Australorps are amazing layers.  

    Meat Birds: Cornish Cross and Freedom Rangers are great for meat production but these are birds you would stricly buy from a hatchery. They are bred to be larger and aren’t recommended for re-breeding as the genetics just wont turn out the same. So therfore you would be buying them from a hatchery every year. Orpingtons and Bresse’s are a good option if you want to breed yourself.

    Dual-Purpose: Breeds like Orpingtons, Wyandottes, or Rhode Island Reds are good options for both eggs and meat.  

    Cold-Hardy Breeds: Brahmas, Black Australorp and Barred Rocks tolerate colder climates well.  

    Heat-Tolerant Breeds: Leghorns and Andalusians do better in warm climates.  

    Setting Up Your Chicken Coop 

    A well-designed chicken coop is essential for keeping your flock safe, healthy, and productive. Here’s what to consider:  

    Space Requirements: Provide at least 4 square feet per bird inside the coop and 10 square feet per bird in the outdoor run.  

    Ventilation: Proper airflow prevents moisture buildup and reduces the risk of respiratory issues.  

    Nesting Boxes: Provide one nesting box for every 3–4 hens for egg-laying.  

    Roosting Bars: Chickens need roosts to sleep on at night, about 8–12 inches per bird.  

    Predator Protection: Use sturdy materials, and ensure doors and windows are secure. Install hardware cloth instead of chicken wire for better protection against predators.

    Remember, there are many options for building or purchasing a suitable coop for your birds. It can still be purposeful without being pretty. We utilized an old shed that was on our property, cut the chicken door, built roosts, and bought some laying boxes. I’ve seen people turn old campers, large dog kennels, and even make simple hoop coops to house their chickens. The possibilities are endless. So please don’t think you need $1,000 to build a coop; you just don’t.

    Feeding Your Chickens

    A balanced diet is crucial for healthy chickens and quality eggs. Here is a quick run down or you can check out my article here:

    Feeding Your Chickens for a Healthy Flock: A Guide to Quality Eggs and Meat

    Chicken Feed: Start with a commercial feed formulated for the age and purpose of your chickens (starter feed for chicks, layer feed for hens, or grower feed for meat birds).  

    Scratch Grains: A treat for chickens, but not a primary food source.  

    Kitchen Scraps: Chickens love vegetable scraps, fruits, and grains, but avoid feeding them raw potatoes, avocado, chocolate, or anything moldy.  

    Grit and Oyster Shells: Grit aids in digestion, and oyster shells provide extra calcium for strong eggshells.  

    Fresh Water: Chickens need constant access to clean water.  

    Managing Health and Hygiene  

    Healthy chickens are happy chickens. Here’s how to maintain their well-being:  

    Clean the Coop: Regularly remove droppings and old bedding to prevent ammonia buildup.  

    Check for Parasites: Inspect your chickens for mites, lice, and worms. Treat as needed with appropriate solutions.  

    Quarantine New Birds: Keep new chickens separate for a few weeks to ensure they’re not carrying diseases.  

    Watch for Signs of Illness: Be alert for lethargy, loss of appetite, or abnormal behavior, which could indicate health issues.  

    Raising Baby Chicks 

    Starting with baby chicks can be a fun and rewarding experience. Here’s what they’ll need:  

    Brooder Box: A safe, enclosed space with proper ventilation.  

    Heat Source: Use a heat lamp to maintain a temperature of 95°F in the first week, decreasing by 5°F each week until they’re fully feathered.  

    Chick Feed: Provide starter feed with the nutrients they need for healthy growth. 

    Fresh Water: Use a shallow dish to prevent chicks from drowning. Yes, this happens.  

    Bedding: Use pine shavings or straw, but avoid newspaper, which can cause leg problems. This would be like using no bedding as the newspaper just slips and slides everywhere, putting your babies at risk for splayed leg syndrome.

    Egg Collection and Storage  

    Hens typically start laying eggs around 4–6 months of age depending of the breed. To ensure clean and fresh eggs:  

    Daily Collection: When left unattended in the nest, eggs can become dirty, cracked or even eaten(either by the chicken herself orother invaders). In some cases, hens might also conceal them. Interestingly, chickens have a unique ability to carry their eggs tucked under their wings, transporting them to a more secure location(for hatching).  

    Store Properly: Farm fresh eggs have what we call a ‘bloom’ on them that protects them for weeks at room temperature. However if you wash this bloom off, then the eggs must refrigerated.  The eggs still last up to 3 months if stored in the fridge. I personally leave all my eggs at room temperature and rotate them into my kitchen about once a week. I will then wash if they are dirty and store them in the fridge or give away to family as I see fit.

    Common Challenges 

    Even experienced chicken keepers face challenges. Here are a few and how to handle them:  

    Predators: Raccoons, hawks, and foxes are common threats. Always secure your coop and run.  

    Broody Hens: A broody hen essentially acts like a mother anticipating the arrival of chicks. She will lay a certain number of eggs and then stop, choosing to settle on her nest in hopes of hatching them. Interestingly, even without a rooster, meaning the eggs are not fertilized, or if you routinely gather the eggs she lays, she may still insist on sitting on her empty nest. This behavior can lead her to attempt hatching eggs that won’t ever develop or remain fixed on an empty space. To curb this broodiness, it’s important to remove her from the nest, sometimes repeatedly over several days. While she won’t be pleased and will likely express her discontent LOUDLY, this intervention is crucial. Left to her own devices, she might starve herself in her relentless pursuit to incubate those eggs.

    Molting: Chickens shed old feathers and temporarily stop laying eggs during molting season. Usually this happens in fall. It’s normal and doesn’t require intervention, however you may come out one day thinking a murder happened with all the excess feathers you find.

    Building a Routine

    Chickens thrive on consistency. Establish a daily routine that includes:  

    – Feeding and watering in the morning.  

    – Collecting eggs daily.  

    – Letting them out to free-range (if possible).  

    – Many chicken tenders choose to put their chickens to bed and close their coop doors at night to keep them safe from predators. I don’t lock mine up in their coop, but I do ensure they are safe in their run, especially during the summer when daylight hours are long and they are most likely up past my bedtime.

    Enjoy the Process  

    Raising chickens is about more than just eggs and meat—it’s about building a connection to your food and enjoying the simple pleasures of life. Chickens have unique personalities and are fun to watch as they scratch, peck, and interact. Take the time to enjoy the process and celebrate the small victories.  

    Final Thoughts

    Raising chickens is a rewarding journey that offers both practical benefits and joyful moments. By starting with the right preparation and knowledge, you’ll set yourself up for success. Whether you’re looking to gather fresh eggs every morning or simply enjoy the companionship of these feathery friends, chickens are a wonderful addition to any homestead or backyard.  

    What questions do you have about raising chickens? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

  • Blast From The Past: Ramblings of (An Almost) 36 Year Old Woman

    Blast From The Past: Ramblings of (An Almost) 36 Year Old Woman

    I woke up this morning feeling as though I had had a nightmare but really it was just a chance to reflect and appreciate the position my family and I are currently in. I’m grateful everyday I wake up, and for all the little things. A beautiful sunset, the smell of my coffee brewing in the morning, a cozy fire in the middle of winter. I feel its important to show these things everyday not just for my own mental health but for my children to see as well. However there are still days that I’m humbled and I learn something else to be grateful for. Let me give you a little background first, before I delve into the “blast from the past” dream.

    Thirteen years ago, I fled a violent relationship with my daughter, who was three at the time, and moved back to my hometown. I had set us up in a cute little apartment in the middle of town. It was something I could afford on my own as a single working mother, and made do with what we had. We may have started out with lawn chairs as living room furniture, but little by little, we turned it into a home.

    Living in apartments was a constant throughout my childhood. So a sense of familiarity washed over me being in that little two bedroom; however, just because I was accustomed to it didn’t mean I enjoyed it. I didn’t love having so many neighbors living so close. Some were louder than others, some noisier, and some just plain creepy. Still, it was our space, and for the first time since I’d fled, I felt a true sense of independence and ambition.

    Although our small apartment met our basic needs—offering shelter, a space to prepare and enjoy meals, and a cozy place to rest—I longed for more space: a yard of our own, room to roam, or maybe a dog. Growing up, even while living in an apartment, I had always been surrounded by animals, but this particular complex made it nearly impossible to keep them without hefty fees. We settled for pet fish, and my daughter had an odd fascination with ants, so she kept a little farm. Once again, we made due with what we had. Years down the road, I met my now-husband. We shared the same goals for the future, wanting animals, gardening space, and places for the kids to play. When things became serious and we were ready to merge our lives, we sought out a home that could accommodate our growing family while working toward our goals. It didn’t happen all at once, but gradually, we came to be where we are today.

    Now, here we are several years later and I’m dreaming back to that apartment—one that my husband, our three children, who are now 12, 15, and 16, and I had to move back into. In the dream, I kept telling myself that it was only temporary and that we would be back in a house with some property and room for the kids in no time. Why, you may ask, were we moving into an apartment? Who knows. That’s the nature of dreams, though, isn’t it? You don’t always know everything that’s happening, but you can’t deny the emotions tied to those experiences. Even if those experiences are in your head and not our physical reality.

    I awoke this morning with a profound sense of gratitude that filled my heart. As I lay there reflecting on my journey—on the path I’ve walked, the challenges I’ve faced, and the many moments of growth—I couldn’t help but be overwhelmed by the sheer depth of it all. When I think about my past, my present, and everything I’ve accomplished along the way, it brings tears to my eyes. More than just my personal achievements, I think of the milestones my family has reached, the strength we’ve shown, and how far we’ve come together.

    If I could somehow transport myself back to that difficult time in my life, when every day felt like a struggle, I would have never imagined that things could unfold this way. Back then, my goals were simple, focused purely on survival. I just wanted to ensure safety and stability for my daughter and myself, to make decisions that would lead us to a place of peace and security. The future felt uncertain, and dreams beyond that were hard to envision.

    But now, looking around, the contrast is nothing short of monumental. The life we live today is something I once thought was beyond reach. It’s a testament to resilience, to the unwavering will to keep moving forward even when the road ahead seemed unclear. I can hardly believe how far we’ve come, and I’m filled with a deep appreciation for how much we’ve grown and for every person and moment that helped shape this beautiful reality.

    To anyone who’s struggling right now, I want you to know that the journey is long, and sometimes the steps forward can feel small, but they add up. Keep going. The future you imagine today could be even greater than you could ever anticipate.

    Here is my daughters fish tank from back then. Where a big eyed black gold fish would swim about peacefully until one day when he was overfed and went belly up. RIP Bubba.
    And.. of course a silly selfie. This is me in the very apartment I’m referencing. I look like such a baby!
  • Why I Started Blogging: A Journey of Sharing, Growth, and Connection

    Why I Started Blogging: A Journey of Sharing, Growth, and Connection

    Starting a blog felt like a distant dream for years, I was held back by the nagging grip of self-doubt. The idea of sharing my thoughts publicly intimidated me; I often questioned whether my words would resonate with anyone. Each time I considered it, I pushed the idea aside, allowing my lack of confidence to overshadow my aspirations. It seemed easier to dismiss the idea entirely, and so I did, watching my dreams slip away unnoticed. However, I finally mustered the courage to take the plunge, and the journey that followed has been incredibly rewarding. Here’s what has motivated me to finally take that significant step and keep chugging along.

    A Need to Share My Passion 

    We all have passions, and for me, that passion lies in homesteading. The joy that fills my little heart when I’m outside in the sunshine, taking care of my animals or gardening, is like no other. It feels like a fleeting escape to a simpler time when living off the land was the norm, far removed from the societal pressures and the relentless 9-to-5 bullshit routines of modern life. While I appreciate that some folks can successfully embrace a completely off-grid existence, that’s just not in the cards for me right now, and that’s okay. Finding a balance between my dreams and reality is sufficient.

    Through blogging, I’ve discovered a fantastic way to express my passion, share knowledge, and recount the experiences that have shaped my journey. The desire to release these thoughts, rather than keeping them confined, has urged me to connect with others who might find value or inspiration in my story. Whether it involves offering practical tips, narrating personal anecdotes, or initiating meaningful dialogues, this platform has transformed into my creative outlet. It allows me to encourage others to embark on their own homesteading adventures and fosters connections with individuals who share similar interests.

     

    A Space to Process and Reflect 

    Life moves fast, and it’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind without taking time to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re headed. Blogging has become a form of therapy for me—a way to process my thoughts, celebrate my wins, and work through challenges.
    When I write, I find clarity. Ideas that once felt scattered begin to make sense, and I often discover new perspectives I hadn’t considered before. Blogging is not just about creating content for others—it’s also about creating space for myself to grow and evolve.

     

    A Desire to Help Others 

    Blogging offers a deeply rewarding experience when it comes to helping others. Whether I share practical advice, lessons learned from my own missteps, or simply words of encouragement, my goal is to be a supportive resource. This blog serves as a platform for that mission. I’ve already connected with beginner homesteaders through social media, addressing inquiries ranging from “What’s wrong with my chicken’s butt?” to “How do I make a sourdough starter?” Feeling a profound sense of gratitude, I cherish the chance to respond to these questions; because they were once my own.


    I aspire to be a reliable source for any question you might have, regardless of how insignificant it may seem. Here, you won’t face judgment for not having conducted thorough research or for feeling uninformed. There’s far too much negativity in the world already. My vision for this blog is to create a space where readers find genuine support and value. If I don’t have the answer right away, rest assured I’ll make every effort to find it for you! Knowing that even a single person might read my post and leave feeling inspired, informed, or uplifted brings a profound sense of achievement.

    The Joy of Creativity  

    Writing has always been a creative outlet for me. Blogging gives me the freedom to explore this passion in a way that feels authentic and exciting. From brainstorming ideas to crafting stories to designing my website, the process of building a blog has been a deeply satisfying and creative journey so far.
    What’s even better is that blogging allows me to combine multiple interests; after all, it’s my blog, right? I can share my favorite recipes, talk about my animals, gardening, and my art projects. It’s a space where my creativity can thrive without boundaries.

    A Push Out of My Comfort Zone

    Starting a blog wasn’t easy. It meant putting myself out there, risking criticism, and confronting my own self-doubt. I know that growth doesn’t happen in our comfort zones, so it was time to step out of the box and burn it down so I could never go back.


    Blogging has challenged me to develop new skills, from learning how to create engaging content to understanding the technical side of running a website. It has pushed me to become more disciplined, confident, and open to feedback. While it hasn’t always been smooth sailing, the challenges have been worth it.

    Building Connections 

    Throughout my blogging journey, one of my aspirations is to forge meaningful connections. Engaging on social media has introduced me to numerous homesteaders who resonate with my interests and values. Their kindness and encouragement stand out, creating a stark contrast to the often harsh reality we see in the physical world.


    While the internet can feel overwhelming at times, it also serves as a remarkable platform for discovering a supportive community united by shared passions. Through my blogging efforts, I hope to deepen these connections and cultivate this growing network. In addition to the homesteading community I’m gradually nurturing, I’ve also found camaraderie within the WordPress environment. The inspiring writers here provide valuable insights and thoughtful reflections that uplift and motivate me.

     

    To Embrace the Journey, Not Just the Destination  

    Blogging isn’t about perfection or instant success—it’s about the journey. I didn’t start blogging to become an overnight success or to make a quick buck. I started because I wanted to grow, share, and connect with others. And if, along the way, I can use my blog to retire from my 9-to-5 job early? Then so be it. I definitely wouldn’t be opposed to that.


    Each post I write, each comment I receive, and each new idea I explore is a step forward in this ever-evolving journey. And that’s what keeps me coming back to the keyboard.

    Final Thoughts

    Starting this blog has been one of the most rewarding decisions I’ve ever made. It’s challenged me, inspired me, and connected me to a world of incredible people. It’s given me a space to share my voice, reflect on my journey, and make a small difference in the lives of others.  

    If you have dreams you haven’t chased yet because your self doubt krept in. I encourage you to take the leap. Don’t worry about being perfect or having all the answers—just start. The journey will teach you everything you need to know and you’ll be so glad you did. 

  • Spring Into Action: Prepping Your Garden Beds For This Growing Season

    Spring Into Action: Prepping Your Garden Beds For This Growing Season

    If you are anything like me, your anxious to get back outside. After being stuck inside trying to stay warm. I’m sure we are all ready for the sun to grace us with her warm smile.

    Well I have good news. Raise your trowels in the air and we’ll burst into battle…..the battle that is preparing our spring garden beds. With all jokes aside we really can start prepping our garden beds. As winter begins to wind down, it’s the perfect time to prepare your garden for a great growing season. Getting a head start on cleaning up and organizing your space now will set yourself up for a smoother, more successful spring planting season. Let’s get into it!

    Pulling weeds in late winter in anticipationof spring

    Rake It Till You Make It

    First things first, let’s start by cleaning up any leftover debris from the fall and winter months. Any fallen leaves, dead plants, and branches all need to go. They create hiding spots for pests and harbor diseases. That would definitely put a damper come spring time when all you want to do is plant your tomato babies. So rake up leaves and remove any dead plant material from garden beds and pathways. Compost what you can and discard the rest. Not all plants are meant to be composted. You also don’t want any diseased or pest-infested material to infect healthy plants later.

    Pot-ential Cleanliness Awaits

    Time to clean out your pots and containers from last season. Scrub them with warm, soapy water (yes, pots get dirty, too) and disinfect them with a bleach solution to prevent any lingering pests or diseases. Plus, it’s always nice to start the season with a fresh slate—no one likes a plant holding on to last year’s bad vibes.

    Let’s Cut To The Chase

    If you have trees, shrubs or perennials. Now is a great time to prune them back. Prune away any dead, diseased, or damaged branches before new growth starts in the spring. Make sure to clean your tools if you are working with diseased plants. You don’t transfer anything to your healthy plants.

    Woman cleaning her garden tools

    Ready, Set, Sharpen!

    Just like most of our waistlines, your garden tools have also been neglected and forgotten about over the winter. Take the time to clean, sharpen, and oil them. Getting this done before the busy planting season means you won’t have to stop to do this later, allowing you to focus on your task at hand. Shovels, hoes, pruners, and gardening forks all need sharp edges to complete your tasks in a timely manner. Don’t forget to clean the rust spots, and when you’re done cleaning them, store them in a dry area so they stay ready until you need them.

    Bracing For A Stronger Garden

    Now is a good time to inspect, repair or add any garden structures. Check your raised beds, fences, or trellises and make sure they haven’t been damaged over the winter months. Make sure raised beds are level and intact, so they’ll be ready for planting.

    Soil Your Hands Not Your Plans

    You might notice weeds starting to emerge as late winter transitions into early spring. Now is a perfect time to tackle those unwanted weeds. Making your gardening efforts much easier before they have a chance to spread. consider lightly tilling or turning the soil within your garden beds. This practice can enhance aeration and facilitate improved drainage. However, if the ground remains too frozen or saturated, it’s best to patiently wait until the soil becomes workable.

    Since you’re already digging your hands into the earth, this is also an opportune moment to amend your soil. Quality soil is essential for a thriving garden, so now is an excellent time to analyze its characteristics. Assess the pH level and nutrient content. Based on your findings, you can enhance the soil by adding compost, organic materials, or soil conditioners. Getting ahead start stage allows sufficient time to decompose and blend into the soil. Ensuring it’s fully prepared for planting season.

    Digging Into Your Garden Blueprint

    It’s still be cold out, there might even be snow on the ground where you live. That doesn’t mean you can’t plan out this years successful harvest. Reflect on what worked for you last year and take that into consideration. Make notes of new plants or varieties you want to try and make sure you have all your seeds purchased. Planning ahead helps prevent overcrowding but also ensures you make the most of the space available. I like to draw out my plans and also use the “Planter” app. Doing both help me achieve a great layout and also space everything out accordingly.

    Sowing the Seeds of Success

    Your local climate plays a crucial role in determining when you can begin planting. Depending on what zone your in, you might find yourself able to plant cold-hardy crops quite early in the season. For instance, last year, I had great success growing broccoli and lettuce ahead of schedule by utilizing crop covers to protect them from chilly temperatures. Also, if you have the space available, starting seeds indoors can be an excellent way to get a jump on your gardening endeavors. Embracing these early planting strategies can lead to a fruitful harvest before traditional planting times arrive.

    A Final Sprout

    With these helpful suggestions, you can set yourself up for a fruitful and satisfying growing season. It’s an ideal opportunity to get a jump start on your spring garden. So when the time is right, you can get straight to planting! Slip on those gardening gloves, embrace the earth, and get ready to witness your garden thrive along with your gardening skills. Enjoy the joys of gardening!

    Remember, gardening isn’t a race. It’s not about achieving perfection; it’s about having fun, watching things grow, nourishing your body and learning along the way. Enjoy the sunshine, take a moment to breathe in the fresh air and maybe even stop for a cup of tea while you work. Your garden will thank you for it—especially once it’s all spruced up and ready to burst into life

  • Embrace Progress, Not Perfection

    Embrace Progress, Not Perfection

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    What could you do differently?
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    I often find myself reflecting on the things I could do differently. It’s a common thought process, one that comes when I recognize my shortcomings or mistakes—whether it’s my tendency to act out in anger or my struggles with patience. But here’s the thing: that’s just apart of life, it’s healthy, to think about those moments(just don’t dwell on them). After all, growth happens when we are willing to confront ourselves and the patterns we may want to change.

    However, I don’t believe that every aspect of my life needs to be changed. Some things, while they might not be perfect, are exactly how they should be. For example, my quick temper might be something I want to work on, but there are moments where standing up for myself or asserting my boundaries requires that little spark of frustration. Recognizing when that anger is productive and when it’s destructive is part of the process. That balance is a decision I get to make and the key here is deciding what to change and what to keep.

    We often think of personal growth as a constant need for improvement—like we’re broken and need fixing. But I’ve realized that change doesn’t mean abandoning everything about who we are. Sometimes growth comes from understanding what makes us strong, and knowing that it’s okay to keep certain parts of ourselves intact. After all, some of our behaviors, even the messy ones, are coping mechanisms or reflections of deep-rooted values.

    So, when I think about the mistakes I’ve made or the ways I react in difficult situations, I try to remind myself that they don’t define me. They are just moments in time or whispers in the wind. They are opportunities to learn and shift. I don’t have to constantly rewrite my entire story to grow. I can decide what deserves to change and what should stay. Growth isn’t about perfection; it’s about accepting where you are now and intentionally deciding how you want to evolve.

    At the end of the day, personal growth is about choice. It’s about deciding what aligns with your values and how you can be the best version of yourself. The most important thing? That decision is entirely yours and yours alone.

  • The Big Challenges We All Face: Slowing Down, Accepting Limitations, and Finding Balance in a Busy World

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    What are your biggest challenges?
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    Challenges have a peculiar way of appearing in our lives when we least anticipate them. Balancing a full-time job while being a mother of three and managing a small farm keeps my schedule incredibly tight. I often tend to overlook my personal limitations, and recognizing my physical constraints is a lesson I’m still navigating. At just 5 feet tall, there are numerous tasks on the farm that I find physically challenging, which can be quite frustrating. My busy nature makes it difficult for me to understand why others operate at a different pace, and I sometimes forget that not everyone shares my level of urgency. However, I am gradually realizing the importance of slowing down. I’m making an effort to align my expectations with those of the world around me. Life isn’t simply about speed; it’s an intricate journey filled with peaks and valleys, moments for introspection, and occasionally, the need for a deliberate pause.

    The Need to Slow Down in a Busy Life

    In today’s fast-paced world, many find themselves balancing jobs, family commitments, social activities, and personal hobbies—all while projecting an image of having everything under control. I can definetly relate. The adrenaline rushes through my veins as I dash from one obligation to the next, checking off items on my to-do list like a warrior slicing down enemies on a battle field. On most days, my reliance on lists ensures I tackle all my essential tasks, enhancing my productivity and allowing me to navigate the complexities of my bustling life.


    Yet, there are days when my list seems to expand endlessly, transforming planned tasks into a month-long series of projects. After all, the animals aren’t going to scoop their own poop and dishes don’t put themselves in the dishwasher. Fueled by caffeine and sheer determination, I often find myself striving to accomplish everything while squeezing just a bit more into each day.


    Along my journey, I came to realize that this relentless pace was not sustainable. There would always be tasks demanding attention, whether in the home or on the farm. The laundry would await me tomorrow, and while I believe in the value of planning to prevent falling behind, I also recognize the necessity to incorporate self-care into that plan. Heeding my body’s signals—fatigue, irritability, anxiety—wasn’t just a coping mechanism; ignoring them can lead to burnout. Gradually, I’ve learned to respect these cues by allowing myself to take breaks, acknowledging that slowing down doesn’t equate to failure but rather signifies self-care. It’s perfectly acceptable to pause and breathe.


    So, where does one start when it feels like the world is racing by? Initiating change begins with minor adjustments in perspective. I realized the importance of scheduling moments of reflection—whether through a morning coffee ritual to savor quietness or an evening routine dedicated to unwinding with a book or a leisurely stroll. As I integrated these small but vital respites into my life, I began to view them as essential components of my day. While I still maintain a to-do list, I now distinguish between critical tasks and those that can wait until I feel inspired to tackle them. This balancing act allows me to achieve my goals while sidestepping burnout, creating a healthier and more fulfilling routine.

    Accepting Physical Limitations

    Recognizing my physical limitations has proven to be a significant hurdle in my journey. I had to face the straightforward truth: my body is not a machine. It doesn’t always meet the demanding pace I sometimes set for it, and accepting this fact has been a liberating experience. This realization hasn’t come without struggle. There were moments when I drove myself to exhaustion, stubbornly insisting I was okay, all the while my body was desperately signaling for a pause. Our culture often celebrates individuals who appear strong and unyielding, those who tackle every challenge without hesitation.


    For an extended period, I perceived my physical boundaries with annoyance. I felt as though I was not reaching my full potential, convinced I wasn’t contributing enough simply because I couldn’t accomplish everything. My mind was crowded with suffocating thoughts about what I “should” be able to do: completing a marathon, keeping up with my lively children, or joining friends for drinks after work without feeling depleted. While I believe in the importance of pushing oneself to an extent, there’s a precarious balance in driving your body beyond its limits.


    Eventually, a shift in my mindset became essential. Rather than solely fixating on my restrictions, I began to recognize and celebrate my capabilities. Listening to my body became a priority, and honoring its needs shifted my perspective. This meant allowing time for recovery, opting for gentler workouts, and learning to decline additional responsibilities that could overextend me. Embracing my body as it is, instead of how I wished it could be, brought an incredible sense of freedom. Accepting these limitations does not equate to abandoning my aspirations. Instead, it signifies that I am approaching my goals in a more thoughtful manner. I can commit myself to pursue my passions at a pace that respects my physical reality. There’s no need to hastily dash towards the finish line; it’s perfectly acceptable to stroll there, even if the journey takes longer.

    Converting Frustration to Curiosity


    One peculiar frustration stands out amid these challenges, revealing my driven nature. Often, I catch myself contemplating the achievements of others, questioning why their levels of motivation and productivity don’t match mine. Engaging in this comparison can rapidly lead to feelings of disappointment and resentment. I wonder, why does it seem like others accomplish more with such apparent ease?


    This tendency to compare ourselves to others is a common human impulse, isn’t it? We frequently measure our behind-the-scenes struggles against the highlight reels of those around us. Social media amplifies this effect, displaying snapshots of polished lives that often hide the underlying difficulties. Scrolling through posts about milestones—graduations, promotions, or book launches—sometimes leaves me with a tight knot in my stomach. This feeling arises from a deep desire to reach similar heights, often causing me to overlook my distinct challenges.


    Understanding this pattern has become an important ongoing lesson. I strive to remember that each individual travels their own path, equipped with unique challenges and timelines. The fact that someone’s experience differs from mine does not imply they are more or less accomplished. Their pace may reflect a myriad of personal circumstances and choices that remain unknown to me.


    This newfound insight has the power to transform my daily outlook. Curiosity has replaced judgement; I find myself pondering questions like: What motivates them? What obstacles do they encounter? How do they measure success? This shift from critical assessment to genuine curiosity has enabled me to celebrate the achievements of others wholeheartedly rather than feeling begrudged.


    Now, whenever that familiar frustration threatens to arise, I counter it with gratitude for my personal journey. I’ve reached many significant milestones, albeit in ways that may differ from those around me. I’m learning to value the unique qualities and strengths that I contribute. By practicing self-acceptance and recognizing my achievements—regardless of their scale—I nurture a sense of inner peace.

    The Balance Between Accomplishment and Being Present


    This journey of confronting my own challenges has led me to explore the delicate balance between accomplishment and tranquility. I used to measure my worth by how much I ticked off my to-do list, but now I find immense value in just being present. In a world that champions achievement, it’s easy to forget the importance of simply existing, of feeling and experiencing life in a meaningful way.


    Finding this balance isn’t merely about slowing down; it’s about integrating that slower pace into a life filled with purpose. The truth is, life can seem chaotic and congested, with multiple demands vying for our attention. But in the midst of that chaos, it’s vital to carve out pockets of mindfulness and reflection that enrich our experience.


    I’ve discovered a few methods that have supported me in navigating this balance:
    Mindfulness and Meditation: Incorporating mindfulness practices into my daily routine has cultivated a sense of calm that permeates my tasks. Even just a few minutes of meditation or conscious breathing can ground me in the present moment, reminding me that life is happening now—not on some distant to-do list or future endeavor.
    Quality Over Quantity: Instead of drowning in the sea of obligations, I consciously choose to engage in fewer activities that spark joy and fulfillment. I’ve learned that it’s better to invest my energy in what truly resonates with me rather than spreading myself thin with commitments that don’t.
    Gratitude Journaling: Taking time to pen down what I’m grateful for invigorates my perspective. It shifts focus from what’s missing to what is here, and that can be profoundly grounding.

    Embracing the Journey Ahead


    Our lives may be filled with challenges, but acknowledging and embracing them paints a richer picture of who we are. Slowing down in the face of a busy life, accepting our physical limitations, and reframing frustrations stemming from others’ journeys can be catalysts for personal growth.
    As I navigate my own path, I remain committed to celebrating both the successes and struggles. Each of us is undertaking our journey through this intriguing world at our pace. It’s not about how quickly we reach our destinations but how deeply we engage with the ride along the way.
    So here’s to the challenges we face—the fatigue, the frustrations, the limitations—and how they shape our experiences. Instead of racing through life, let’s take a moment to slow down, appreciate our uniqueness, and embrace the beauty in simply being. The journey matters just as much as the destination, and each chapter offers opportunities for learning, growth, and connection. Here’s to savoring the ride—one day at a time.