One of my favorite questions to ask people—online or in real life—is “What book are you reading right now?” It always sparks good conversation and gives me new ideas for my own reading list.

Right now, I’m working my way through The Courage to Be Disliked by two Japanese authors, Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. And let me tell you… the title throws people off so fast.

I’ve already had several coworkers glance over during my break and say things like:
“Whoa… you okay?”
“Are you about to start snapping at people?”
Or my favorite: “Dang Becky, who you mad at?” 😂

But here’s the thing: the book isn’t about becoming rude or suddenly deciding you hate everyone. Not even close.

What the Book Is Actually About(so far)

I just started it, but it’s already taking a surprisingly deep look at happiness, personal responsibility, and why we hold ourselves back in life.

The best way I can describe it—without quoting the book—is this:

It’s the idea that sometimes we self-sabotage because staying in our comfort zone feels safer than changing our lives… even when we want the change.

For example:

Let’s say I really want a new job. I apply, I get the interview… and then I totally bomb it. On the surface, it looks like bad luck or nerves.
But this philosophy suggests that, deep down, I might be subconsciously messing it up because I don’t actually believe I can handle the new job. Or because the unfamiliar feels too risky compared to the safety of what I already know.

Not intentionally, not maliciously—just a quiet “holding ourselves back” that happens under the surface.

It’s an interesting take, honestly. A little uncomfortable in that good, growth-mindset way.

Why I Love Books Like This

I’ve always been fascinated by how the human mind works—why we do what we do, why we get stuck, and how we can grow.

Everyone has their own beliefs and values, of course. But I think it’s important to stay curious about different perspectives, because we’re all trying to make sense of this spinning rock we call home.

And so far, this book is pushing me to reflect on my own habits, fears, and patterns. Sometimes it’s nice when a book gently calls you out… without fully dragging you across the floor. 😅

Do you have any book recommendations that explore mindset, personal growth, or the way we shape our own happiness?
Drop them in the comments — I love adding new reads to my list!