Instincts vs Insights: How We Judge Character

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Are you a good judge of character?

What is Character Judgment

Evaluating someone’s character involves forming an opinion or conclusion drawn from the information that we have at hand. This process is influenced by a mix of emotional responses, intellectual insights, personal experiences, and social dynamics. By interpreting these various elements, we arrive at an assessment of the individual. Ultimately, our judgments stem from how we perceive these facets, culminating in a holistic view of their character.

Learned Behavior or Deep-Seated Instinct

Judging someone’s character raises intriguing questions about our upbringing and innate perceptions. Many of us might not recall specific lessons about moral judgments from our childhoods, yet it’s likely that we absorbed these ideas subconsciously. As children, we observe the world around us and begin to make sense of our surroundings, forming opinions about what seems right or wrong, who we regard as good or bad
Instinctively, we sometimes decide not to trust certain individuals. This reaction could be colored by familiar patterns, like a person’s gait reminding us of a stereotypical villain from films, leading us to label them as untrustworthy. Conversely, a quirky shirt might trigger a positive association, making us feel drawn to that person.


Delving deeper, one might wonder if our impressions of others stem from even more profound sources. It’s fascinating how we can sense a palpable shift in energy when someone enters a room, regardless of our previous knowledge of them. This phenomenon suggests that there may be subtle undercurrents in social interactions that escape our conscious awareness yet resonate with us at a deeper level. Is this a product of our environmental influences and upbringing, shaping our judgments based on visual cues, body language, and social engagement?

Learning Judgment

From a young age, we often hear the warning not to engage with strangers, particularly when it comes to accepting food or drinks from them. This guidance likely stems from a time when our ability to assess character was still developing. Children, in their innocence, tend to trust others without hesitation, lacking the quick judgment required to evaluate safety and trustworthiness. Throughout our formative years, we learn about right and wrong, navigating what is deemed acceptable or unacceptable behavior. These lessons, informed by experiences and external feedback, help shape our ability to make judgments as we mature.

Trusting our intincts

Are there inherent factors influencing our judgments of character? After countless generations, assessing character has evolved into a vital life skill. Encounter someone in a dimly lit alley, and your body immediately triggers a fight-or-flight response. Can you sense the energy of an individual who might intend you harm? Is this circumstance perilous or safe?

Most people have likely heard the advice to “trust your gut.” Some scientists claim that its our brains sending us signals that our conscious minds may not fully grasp, leading to an unsettling feeling without a clear reason. However I prefer to think of a higher power in play and it resembles the ancestors depicted in the film Mulan, relaying messages that help us navigate our instincts. 🤣

The role of society

While human judgment may have evolutionary roots and learned behaviors it is also shaped by cultural and societal influences. The values, beliefs, and norms of the society in which we live determine what we consider to be trustworthy or truthful. The media exposure alone complicates the bombardment of information we receive. It often blurs the lines between fact and fiction.

Balancing Instinct and Insight

Assessing someone’s character may seem straightforward, yet real-life experiences reveal a much more complex truth. Multiple factors contribute to our judgments, and we often miss the mark, just as those we evaluate may have made their own missteps. It’s not uncommon to make the mistake of assuming someone is fundamentally flawed, only to discover they are genuinely kind. This echoes the wisdom of the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”


Like many others, I have fallen into the trap of making hasty judgments. My optimistic outlook often drives me to seek the good in everyone, believing that beneath the surface, everyone harbors a positive trait. This hopeful perspective has thrown me into a variety of interesting situations. While I continue to choose an optimistic view of people’s character, I have learned to protect myself and not take unnecessary risks for their sake.


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